Secrets of the Coffee Date
Posted: Wednesday, December 30, 2009
by Richard Brus
Master Seductor
A coffee date is the most effective way to move things along to the next stage with a woman. When you have a woman's phone number the next step is to simply call her and invite her out to share a coffee with you. Getting to know a woman better is best done whilst in a casual relaxed atmosphere such as a cafe.
A coffee date doesn't have connotations of intimacy attached to it like dinner or movie dates do. These are the very reasons that will allow women to be more receptive to your invitation. Women are more inclined to accept an invitation to a coffee date rather than a dinner date. They feel safe and don't feel pressured into becoming intimate with you because of the casual and public atmosphere a cafe has.
Most women will need to spend around 8 hours with a man before they are comfortable enough to become intimate with him. This is why the common first date ideas fail so badly. They fail to utilize the little known secret called time fractionating. There is absolutely no point in being with a woman any longer than 40mins on your first date. Succeeding with women is made easier by utilizing these 8 hours correctly.
When you spend longer than 40 minutes with a woman on your first date you run the risk of her becoming bored with you. No matter how good your flirting and conversational skills are the strength of the connection you're creating will reach its peak and level out, usually before the 40 minute mark.
When you create a great connection by talking about interesting things and flirting, women are naturally inclined to want to become intimate with you. However, they will not allow themselves to become intimate with you because they haven't been in your company for anywhere near 8 hours. This will work against you because although you've connected well with her and she feels attraction, she won't act on it, and this leaves her feeling frustrated and bored.
This is where time fractionating comes into play. When the 8 hours is split into a 40 minute coffee date followed by a 7 hour second date, the chances of her wanting to become intimate with you skyrocket. Whether the girl is you're future wife or whether she is your next short term fling, the most effective way of succeeding with her is a short 40 minute date followed by a long 7 hour date.
The purpose of the coffee date is to create a good connection with her so she feels compelled to go on a second date with you. After spending a maximum of 40 minutes with her you'll have a sound idea of what she likes doing for fun and you'll be able to plan a much more effective second date for her. You would've also increased the quality of your connection with her before asking her out on an official date.
Most common dates like the movies and dinner fail because you don't really know enough about the woman to spend two or three hours with her. These two or three hours aren't enough time to allow her to feel comfortable enough to become intimate with you anyway. You won't increase the quality of your connection with her anymore than you would've if you'd just spent 40 minutes with her. Only spending 40 minutes with her will leave her with a feeling of eagerness rather than boredom and it allows the seduction to move at a pace that is more natural for her.
By simply connecting well with her on a short coffee date you'll know about everything she likes to do for fun and you'll be able to plan the perfect date for her. She'll also be ten times more inclined to accept your invitation to a more intimate date because you've already taken the time to connect with her the right way.
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