Using NLP to Generate Connection with Women
Posted: Wednesday, December 30, 2009
by Richard Brus
Master Seductor
NLP and seduction have long been associated with each other. Nero Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a term used to describe the way in which our brains adhere to specific patterns of communication dependent on our personality type. Once we can begin to understand these patterns, triggers and Meta models, we can use them to our advantage whilst communicating with women.
Seduction and NLP go hand in hand. By swiftly interpreting which kind of system a woman is primarily employing, a man can apply the same system to build trust and connection more effectively. Building trust and rapport are essential factors in seduction.
When people communicate they use a particular type of representational system. There are four types of systems and people primarily communicate through the lens of their personal hierarchy. The four systems are; visual, audio, kinesthetic (touch), and olfactory (smell and taste). By communicating with someone using their representational system a person is able to build rapport much faster.
When a person is using the visual system as their primary method of communication the dialogue they use will incorporate expressions associated with vision. For example; "If you can visualize what I'm saying it just might change your view point. Then you might see what I mean after you get the picture"
With a little practice it can become simple for you to adopt the same representational system in your conversational dynamics as the woman you are flirting with. It gives the woman the impression that you just seem to be able to speak her language.
If a woman's primary representational system was 'audio', you would hear her use terminology like, "It just sounded like a good idea. When I heard it I tuned in straight away. His voice had a soft tone so I had to listen carefully and I'm glad I did"
A kinesthetic representational system sounds like, "I don't know why he felt so bad because I only just touched on the subject ever so lightly. Obviously he hadn't warmed up to the idea or it just didn't feel right for him"
The use of the olfactory system as a representational system hierarchy is quiet rare as most people are visual, kinesthetic or audio. An olfactory example is, "It was a really bitter and cold day but the way he thought about bringing a jumper along for me was really tastefully done"
Now that you can understand and identify the different preferred representational systems that women use you'll be able to easily adopt the same system at will, and increase the quality of your connection with women. A communication breakdown on a very subliminal level can be found in the following example.
If a woman was communicating with you and she said, "I like the look of that place and I can picture myself going there someday", she would be classified as a 'visual'. If a man was to respond using the 'audio' system with something like, "That does sound good. It's got a good vibe and it seems nice and peaceful like you could just tune out. I hear you and its quiet a good idea, I must say"
This example above illustrates how it is possible for the woman to feel a low quality of connection even though the man is in total agreement with her. The man is responding through the lens of an 'audio' representational system rather than a 'visual'. If he responded to the woman's statement whilst utilizing the 'visual' system with a reply similar to, "That does look picturesque. I can certainly see you're point. It looks great", he would be able to establish greater rapport which in turn would allow her to feel more comfortable around him.
When a man can easily identify the woman's preferred representational system and is able to utilize the same system, it's natural for the woman to feel more comfortable around the man. It can become easy with a little practice and it's always an advantage to have this embedded within your conversational dynamics.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)This sounds pretty easy to do but I would have never thought of it myself...Just by reading it I can tell it would work.
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